Looking Back to Look Forward

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2012 is coming to a close in just a few days. As we hurry to get the last presents and organize everything that needs to be done before Christmas it is easy to miss out on what is most important; why we do what we do, – and time and presence with our loved ones.

All the gifts in the world can never compare to the joy in a child’s eyes when the child feels seen and loved. No amount of food and festivities can compare to sitting down with a friend to really listen to what is going on. That takes slowing down… It takes presence.

Take a moment to just be and discover how life is slowing down around you as you breathe slowly in and out, aware of your heart, body and soul.

It is time to look back, to reflect, to celebrate and learn from what this year has brought to our lives, to mine and yours. What challenges have you overcome, – what victories can you celebrate? What will you make sure you do next year? Or never do again? What kind of friend, parent or leader will you be? What would you like people to say about you? How would you like the next chapter in your life to be?

Give yourself the present of quiet time to look back and to set intentions for 2013. What needs to happen for you to live the life you dream about for yourself and your loved ones?

With Goethe’s famous words we urge you to think big, ask for help, get support and know that “Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it.”

Here’s to a Peaceful Holiday Season and a Successful and Fabulous New Year!

 

Holiday Expectations….

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Slightly worried that the holidays won’t go as planned?
What to do to reduce stress and worries.

The holiday season brings with it lots of different wants, needs, expectations and assumptions. Surprisingly often we have different expectations or assumptions that we fail to communicate. As a result disappointment and conflict can arise out of seemingly insignificant things.

Here is what you can to do to avoid disappointment, reduce stress and strengthen your relationship:

TALK!! Ask each other empowering questions. Put words to what you want or need without complaints or accusations. Listen to what the other person says and do your best to understand what is important for the one you are listening to. You do not always need to agree, but you do need to listen and acknowledge each other. Talk about what kind of atmosphere you would like to create together over the holidays.

Ask:
“What kind of atmosphere will support our relationship (our family) and help us create a wonderful Christmas together?”
“What will we do, or how will we be together if we disagree or become upset with each other?”
By talking about this before a conflict occurs your increase the likelihood of navigating though differences in a way that is respectful and constructive. Your chances for having a wonderful time together where everybody feels seen, heard, important and loved rises. As parents you teach your children to create and be responsible for their contribution to family happiness as you become strong role models for this essential relationship skill.

Checking out assumptions and expectations
It is easier than you think. Instead of worrying and getting concerned over something you do not really know the answer to, or whether it is real or made up in your own mind, check it out by asking. It can go like this:
“I have and assumption that….” “ “Is that so?”
If you are wrong, let it go. If you were right, talk about it to find a solution.

Happy Holidays!

A New Year, New Opportunities and a New Office!

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2013 brings exciting times for C-MOMENTUM AS as we mid-January move into our new office centrally located at the main square in Bergen; Torgalmenningen.

Located in one of the distinctive buildings adorning the square, we will have enough space to facilitate seminars, lectures and workshops including a more private space for individual coaching sessions and relationship coaching for couples.

We look forward to an exciting year, to celebrate 10 years in business and to welcome new and old clients to our new offices overlooking the city and Mount Fløyen.

You will find us at the 4th floor of Valkendorfsgaten 2A, the yellow building to the right in the photo.

Welcome!

The Power of Being Unique

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I have spent most of my life looking outside, looking at what other people do, think or have. In some way, I guess I was trying to look for approval or a magical response of what it is that I should do with my own life. Did it work?

No, looking outside just made me feel miserable as I didn’t have “that” which other people were born with. Suddenly, I realized I was playing the victim role, waiting for others and the world to provide a happy life. I was in fear of failure (and probably success).

It took me some time to remember that I am a unique being with feelings, thoughts and ways of being and of doing, that belong only to me. Everything that comes from me has my seal and my unique point of view. Nobody in this world can offer, give, think, feel or love as I do. Therefore, I have a special task and that is to discover my purpose on this planet.

I’ve shared this feeling of being “not enough” with family and friends to discover I was not the only one. I am not alone in the process of self-discovering, and that put a smile on my face. Knowing that, maybe my neighbors or strange people I cross by, are experiencing the same, makes me feel human.

My dearest teacher once told me that there’s no right or wrong way to live a life, there’s MY way. YOUR way. That has changed my life ever since. With my love and dreams, with my fears and tears, I have an unquestionable right to be ME wherever I go.

Have you ever experienced the freedom of being you? How do you feel when you are who you are? We can learn from others, but we are UNIQUE. Nobody on this planet has that special something that only you have. It’s your task to discover it and share it!

We have tons of talents waiting to be awakened. It’s our everyday mission to reveal those talents, especially when we think we don’t have them. They are inside of us, and that’s the reason why we cannot easily see them. You are a special, enlightened and beautiful being that has come to this earth to be happy.

What are you waiting for to start the magnificent task of diving into yourself and discovering your uniqueness?

To begin with this amazing task of exploring yourself, I found it interesting and funny to answer this famous questionnaire created by the French journalist Bernard Pivot. You just need a paper and pen. Are you ready?

1. What is your favorite word?
2. What is your least favorite word?
3. What turns you on?
4. What turns you off?
5. What sound or noise do you love?
6. What sound or noise do you hate?
7. What is your favorite curse word?
8. What profession other than your own would you like to attempt?
9. What profession would you not like to do?
10. If heaven exists, what would you like to hear God say when you arrive at the pearly gates?

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”
– Ralph Waldo Emerson

Written by Magalí Musmanno

Photo by BSCHWEHN. Photo-editing C-MOMENTUM AS.

Life Can Be a Honeymoon

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Life is to be cherished like a lover. Oh Yes, the greatest lover you could ever imagine. A lover that captivates you, filling you with wonder and making your mind soar with passionate possibility.

One that sends shivers of delight through your entire being, and makes you shake in your boots until you feel sure your heart will pound straight through your chest. Life is the lover that entices, excites, and challenges you… holding you so precious that you believe you can be or do anything your heart desires. Life is the lover that takes you to the edge and beyond, proclaiming over and over, “You’re The One.”

Embrace this lover, LIFE. Pledge yourself to the union and live each day like you’re on a honeymoon. Honeymoon is more than a one-time shot; it’s an eternal journey of heart and commitment.

Let yourself be aroused by creativity and adventure, by the sweaty thrill of the moment and sweet promise of something new ahead. Turn your spark into fireworks. Take your beloved life and have it become your best dreams made real.
Next time you look into the mirror, at the face of another, outside your door, across the globe… let it be love at first sight. And let the honeymoon begin… all over again.

©2012 – Gail Barrie. All rights reserved.

Get Motivated

 

Failure is simply the stepping stone to success.

The key to success is patience, persistence and perspiration. Watch this motivational video and get inspired to get started on the steps that will lead you towards your goals.

Welcome

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Living life full out, going the distance and having a blast! Choosing who YOU want to be, how YOU want to live in order to be the best version of yourself.

We believe that when we live value based lives and are grounded in what it means to be response-able, when we are the best version of our self and have healthy relationships all around, we have more to give. When we give to others we become more fulfilled and thereby help create a healthy circle.

We also know this is not always easy. Nobody became great on their own. Help, motivation, inspiration, knowledge, self-reflection, and support are keywords on the way to success, – whatever success means to you.

Life is filled with obstacles, good and bad and quite a few we can do very little about other than complain. Which really does not help that much. A sense of freedom and responsibility comes when we understand that it is not the obstacle itself that is the problem, but how we choose to deal with it.

It really is about how we choose to be in regard to what life serves us. Our attitude and approach to what happens, our inner dialog and interpretation of the problem, hindrance or inconvenience are essential key elements that influence how happy we are, – or not.

Our aim is to invite you into a world where stories, tips, skills and techniques about how to navigate work and life, parenting and relationships in more skillful ways, will help inspire and motivate you to live YOUR life being the best version of YOU.

We hope to inspire to tolerance and compassion for yourself and others while still stretching to grow and learn. We hope that you will share your stories, insights and knowledge and help to inspire others to find hope and ways forward in the midst of struggle and hardship.

Whether you are a leader, a parent, single or in a romantic relationship, a friend, a colleague, a son or a daughter, sister or brother, you are always, in obvious or somewhat more intricate ways, connected through a web of many strings to the rest of the world. You always have impact. Whether that impact is by choice or more random is up to you.

Energy follows focus. What will you focus on to live a more fulfilled life?